Questioning Normality

Mini Awareness Exercise for the Locals

  •  12/4/2015
  •   Lefave, Patricia
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Without 'admitting' to anything yourselves, or talking directly to me, as if I was an actual factor in my own life, and an equal human being, try this: Focus just on other tenants in my current apartment complex. Now think about what YOU know which some of them say TO me, as well as what they say ABOUT me to others, often 'covertly' from 1 to ten feet away. Think about what some of them have specifically told others ABOUT me. Now think about them, defining FOR me, what I think, or will think...
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Oh My Gawdddd!

  •  9/15/2014
  •   Lefave, Patricia
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My “mental illness” is asserting itself again. Bubbling up from within my defective little pea brain. I “think” city bus drivers continue to talk about me, and that there has even been a spike in bus driver gossip, including another round, once again, of the group assessment of my non existent alcoholism. (this first began when someone “covertly” passed along the news years ago that I had gone to Al- Anon, which I did, which is the organization for people “helping” and coping with the addicted o...
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The Hinge

  •  6/2/2014
  •   Lefave, Patricia
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Basically, the superior people doing all the talking, mocking, ridiculing, laughing and acting out can't make the connection between what they are doing and the statement of the ones to whom they do it, that that ARE doing it. They can't make the connection because to make it, they would have to see themselves as they obviously are, and as we see them. If they did see themselves, they would have to relate as equals, or (God forbid!) from the first person and instead of third personning us, and t...
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  •  9/10/2013
  •   Lefave, Patricia
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Let's take another look at this, now shall we? THE MOBBING PORTAL YOUR GATEWAY TO THE SCIENTIFIC STUDY OF GANGING UP 'A mobbing is like a tornado spun off from a spring rainstorm - a fervent, collective assault that escalates from an ordinary conflict.' -Kenneth Westhues qtd. in 'Mob Rule' by John Gravois...
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Anti-Socializing Skills

  •  8/17/2013
  •   Lefave, Patricia
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Now what is that? Well, this is when you get together with a group of like minds who prefer to focus externally together on an individual, or group of individuals, who just aren't “up” to your group defined standard of “normal,” or acceptable. Of course what that ISexactly is variable and will be defined by group consensus. Basically though you get together with a group of like minds and mock, ridicule and fabricate “stories”, preferably with at least a grain of truth in them so that you wil...
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Attention Confused Labelled People

  •  5/9/2013
  •   Lefave, Patricia
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Trying to “Make Sense” of Your Chaotic Experience? Dysfunctional Splitters DO NOT include YOUR full awareness of THEM in their “covert” evaluations of you, even when they do it pairs, or in groups, from just a few feet away from you, like at bus stops etc. The “hidden in plain sight” bit is a part of their own Splitter Delusion but they will never acknowledge that because feeling “superior” to you, in either understanding or worth, and avoiding knowing the truth about both themselves and you, ...
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We can use these public boards as a means of collective contact amongst psychiatric survivour/ex mental patients. 

(Interacting with the non- psychiatrized as well where appropriate) As with all sites like mine, this is a good way to get out of psycho-social isolation, feel connected to those with similar experiences, and to share what helps and what does not.

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Who Defines the Normal and Why?
The Focus on this interactive page is going to be on the perspective we don't hear much about: the Normal group member and his or her role in the design and diagnosis of the assigned illness, given to the individual who gets psychiatrized, often for 'complaining' about his/her experience with 'others' as well as the Normal's function as a part of a Normal group.

Here we will shift the focus OFF of the psychiatrized one and ONTO the group as a whole, and some of its other members in particular.


I believe we need to take another look at 'Normal' and how it all got to be considered to BE 'Normal. In doing so we may just find that a whole lot of what is now considered to be 'Normal' might better be described as 'common' or ‘habit.' Longstanding dysfunctional relating for example is very often called “Normal' by those who are used to it, who want to stay 'popular' in their group by keeping silent, or who “don't want to make waves “in the name of “getting along.” Often of course, those who are “getting along” are not really “getting along” with everyone and are part of a well practised scapegoating system. 

So if you have some stories of your “Normal' experiences, this is the page for that.


As usual on these pages, please follow the few simple rules of communication and talk about; ideas or experiences generally, your own personal experiences without naming proper names, your feelings, your experiences  of the mental illness system, good or bad, in relation to your own personal experience with it.  Keep it connected on this page though to defining and questioning what is considered to be “Normal” thinking and behaviour. Do NOT name names, as this is a public board and liability laws apply. Keeping your sharing in the first person singular and/or in relation to ideas or concepts allows you to have your say and keeps you and me, safe from harm or legal problems at the same time.


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